Messing up is truly human. We are all imperfect beings. In relationships, mistakes the big and little ones, occur. They usually lead to strife, sorrow, betrayal, and disappointment. Forgiveness is human too. So, you and I have the power to forgive. Doing so can help you avoid resentment and bitterness and often will save a relationship.
To forgive doesn’t indicate that you excuse the wrong.
Progressing to a place of true forgiveness isn’t about you thinking that what a person did is alright if it wasn’t.
Forgiving doesn’t signify you have to forget (can you really do it?).
What forgiveness is about is removing the negativity that results from hurt by eliminating emotional baggage.
Why should we forgive?
Even though it can feel very comforting to be forgiven, don’t get it twisted. We don’t forgive for the other person. We forgive for ourselves.
Forgiveness is for our own happiness and growth. When we hold on to pain, resentment, anger, and hurt, it hurts us way more than it hurts the offender.
Forgiveness liberates us to live in the present. Remembering the wrong that was done to us keeps us living in the past and missing today’s wonderfulness.
Forgiveness lets us get back our personal power. Our regret, hatred, resentment, or anger towards someone means that we are turning our power over to the other person. Imagine a chain around your neck held by the person who wronged you. Until you can forgive, you won’t crack that chain and the person will still have an harmful hold on you.
Forgiveness carries you back to good mental and physical health. Our body’s systems react to negative emotions, distressing the immune system in ways that would blow you away. Letting go of those feelings is a healthy idea.